Posted by: tgonzales | March 17, 2014

March 15-16, 2014 Weekend, Wedding Pictures Found, KU Jayhawk Slippers, and Spending Time with Mom


Well, my weekend started off with me finding our wedding pictures. Of course the box was on the shelf in my closet way back in the corner where I could never reach. I had to call in reinforcements to help. (John) As soon as I opened the box I knew that the pictures were in there. I have now uploaded them to my external hard drive where all my other pictures are stored. Now I should not have any trouble locating them again.  🙂


Wow, these photos brought back lots of memories, especially how much my Dad loved Joshua and


all of his grand and great-grand children. It also made me miss him so much more.


My Grandma Kingery and Aunt Erma and how much I miss them.


I love these pictures of my best friend Debbie and me (then


and now). I love that we have been friends for 48 years now and we both know that at a moments notice if either one of us needs the other we will always be there.


This picture always makes me laugh. We had stepped onto the back porch after the wedding and my sister asked John how it felt to be married….


and this is what John did. Thank goodness I wrote it on the back of the picture so that when I forget, I will know why he has his hands up in the air. The reason I had an apron on is because I along with my sister-in-laws prepared a Mexican dinner for everyone.


I’m not sure who started this chivalry tradition in our family but whenever each of us got married I always remember a wheelbarrow being outside ready for the groom to push the bride in it along with the sign.


I really loved this one of me pushing him; I still remember my heels sinking into the sand in the driveway. 🙂


Anyway, there are more pictures of the wedding but I won’t bore you with all of them. (right now) 😉


Now back to crochet….I finished up the three pairs of KU Jayhawk slippers for Merilyn on Saturday morning before heading out to breakfast with Mom and Jackie. I was so happy that Jackie called me to get together with her and Mom even though it was a very short visit. We had breakfast at the Egg Crate and after we ate I showed them the pictures of the wedding. I hate it when my Mom cries. It’s like there is a connection from her tear ducts to mine; the waterworks start immediately. Then all three of us had tears flowing. It’s pretty much a given that when Jackie, me and Mom get together there will be tears, but there are also laughs. Anyway after breakfast, I had to hurry to get to my first session of my Crochet 101 class, so I headed to Twist. I arrived in time to greet 6 students of which only 2 had ever held a hook and yarn in their hands. I’m happy to say that all 6 of them are well on their way to loving crochet. I can hardly wait to see my new friends next Saturday.


As I was heading home Jackie called and said that Mom is getting more and more confused every day. So Jackie and I are planning to visit her more often. Jackie will make it a point to go to her house during the day, 2 or 3 times a week to read her mail to her, help her with whatever she is having problems with, and I will visit her in the evenings and on the weekends when I can. I’m sure there are other people out there that are experiencing the same challenges as we are with our Mother and I hope you don’t think I am complaining, because I’m not. I want you all to know that I understand your pain and heartache. I am so thankful that our Mom is still able to take care of her personal self, she takes her medication when she is supposed to, and she eats when she is hungry. She just has a hard time understanding, remembering things, and people. It’s especially hard when she knows that it’s happening to her and that she is not able to do some of the things that she never had any problem with.

The rest of our Saturday consisted of John and me enjoying a nice quiet dinner at Old Mill Tasty Shop and after we were home for about an hour; Jackie texted me to tell me that she had Mom at the Emergency room with a bad kidney infection.


Soooo, Jackie and I decided to spend the night with Mom. I packed my bags and headed to her house and arrived before they did. We settled in for the night; I rubbed lotion on Moms dry feet and legs and as Jackie was getting comfy on the couch Mom was tucking her in making sure she had enough blankets. Then I settled in for the night in Mom’s extra bedroom. I had just gotten the lamp turned off, laid down, and covered up when the door flew open, the light came on, and it was Mom making sure that I had enough blankets to keep me warm. I swear we were there to take care of her, but it’s not in her nature to allow us to do that. As long as she is able she will want to take care of us.


Sunday morning I woke at 5:00 am I made 2 more pairs of KU Jayhawk slippers before anyone else woke and then I helped Mom prepare poached eggs, bacon, oatmeal, and toast. Mom is feeling better and is so glad that she went to the ER and got something for her kidney infection when she did.


I want to encourage all of Mom’s friends and family who read my blog to try and stop by to see her. She gets so lonely and the days and evenings are very long for her. Even if you have an extra hour or 30 minutes I know she would love to see all of you. I love this picture of us holding onto each other, as we know how precious this time is together.

Anyway! I am really looking forward to this week since it is the 3rd Monday of the month and that means the KS My Stitch guild meetings are tomorrow; morning meeting is 10:00 am – 12:00 pm and the evening one is from 6:30 pm to 8:30 pm. Much love from the Kingery girls. Have a great Monday.


  1. I’m glad you found your wedding photos. Sure looks like it was a lovely day. I liked the wheelbarrow shots, too. Great job on the crochet. You and Jackie are wonderful daughters to try to take care of your mom (as you said, she’d much rather take care of the two of you). I hope she is able to continue to live independently for some time to come. Aging is so hard in our society. I wish that wasn’t so. Thank you for sharing, Tamara! I hope you have a good week.

    • Thanks Jeanne. I knew you would understand and thanks for the encouraging words, they mean more to me than you will probably ever know. Thanks again for stopping by and for commenting. Love and Hugs, Tamara

  2. Love you my friend. Such a sweet and tender post.

  3. Ok, got me to crying too! Did you EVER think that we would have grey hair and grow old together? I will always Love you Tamara!!

    • Hi Debbie! Are your tear ducts attached to mine? And to your question about having gray hair; I’m not sure if I ever thought about it until now, but yes I knew we would grow old together. I will always love you too, now you made me cry. 🙂

  4. Oh Tammy, I have so been there with my mom and now with my mil. It’s not a fun time when our parents age but its a time we all go thru. I wish there were some magic words that would make things better. The only thing that comes to my mind is “this to shall pass” . I love my Wichita family, especially my aunt Toots. Oh-I love the wedding pictures too. Love you Tammy. sw

  5. Love seeing your faces here. You guys are just the sweetest and I miss seeing you. xop

    • Awww Pam you are such a sweetheart. We miss seeing you as well. Maybe some day I will get back to a quilt market? Love and Hugs, Tamara

  6. Please know that I am thinking of you and sending love. As you know I have the same problem with my Mum but in our case she is 100s of miles away. She too gets lonely. It all seems very hard some days. Do look after yourself. Xx

    • Hi Cathy!

      Thank you so much. I am so sorry that you are having the same problems; I can’t imagine how stressful it is for you to be so far away from your Mom. You take care my friend as well. Love and Hugs, Tamara

  7. Well, I certainly thoroughly enjoyed your wedding pics. I got a chuckle out of seeing an apron on you on your wedding day. 🙂 John really “got into” being wheeled away. Hahaha!!
    Love the colors in those slippers!

    Sorry to hear about your mom’s confusion – and the kidney infection! Glad the latter is being taken care of. I can only imagine the heartache you are feeling about your mom. So difficult for all of you. You & Jackie certainly will treasure these extra moments you are having with her these days & evenings!! Please do your best to take good care of yourself at these times too.

    Love you, dear friend!
    Hugs, Kat

    • Hi Kat!

      Thanks so much for loving the pictures of our wedding. I wore the apron so that I could cook for my family and friends (Mexican food of course). 🙂 The Mom thing is very hard, but you are so right about the moments that we get to spend with her are treasured for sure. Love you my friend! Tamara

  8. I think it must be very very hard to grow old and have to deal with memory loss or confusion when you’re used to being independent and strong. Your mom is as lucky to have you and Jackie as you are to have her. 🙂

    • Thanks so much Jill! Our Mom is a very special lady indeed; we all owe her so much that I could never repay. She deserves only the best of care and Jackie and I plan on giving her that. Thanks again for the kind comments. 🙂 Love you, Tamara

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