Posted by: tgonzales | November 14, 2012

I Try to See the Best in Everyone

I loved this picture so much when I saw it on my friend Becky’s Facebook page. It reminded me of my cousin Ruthie. One time while we were visiting Oklahoma and staying at my Aunt Bee’s house (my Mom’s older sister) anyway, my cousin Ruthie had became attached to a one legged chicken and she named him George. She even wanted to sleep with the chicken, but I don’t think my Aunt Bee let her. I loved spending time with my cousins in Oklahoma and after I would get past my shyness I never wanted to leave. 🙂

This post really has nothing to do with chickens or my cousins or my Aunt. Like the picture depicts; I would like to say that I try to find the good in everyone, but on Tuesday at 1:30 am when we received a phone call from our Chacho Aaron that he had been mugged in front of his Brooklyn, NY apartment I couldn’t seem to find anything good in the man who did this to Joshua. I want to assure everyone Joshua is ok, although me being his Momma and him being a part of me I know that he is shook up. He didn’t say that but I feel his pain when he hurts and I feel his shook-upness even before he might feel it. 🙂 Please don’t get me wrong and think that I’m not grateful that the only thing that the mugger took was his phone and his headphones for his iPod. I am very thankful that the mugger didn’t hurt Joshua as I know the outcome could have been so much worse. I feel so sorry for Rian (pictured above with Joshua) who was talking to Joshua on the phone when the mugging occurred, she heard all the bad words and the struggling and then she heard nothing. I can imagine how frightened she must have been and then how relieved she was when Joshua messaged her on Facebook later to tell her that he was ok. It’s times like these that are the hardest for me to accept that I am so far away from Joshua and I am not able to just run down the street like I do with my daughter when she needs something. I’m so sorry; I just needed to get this off of my chest and to vent a little bit, thanks so much for reading and listening. I promise my next post will be more uplifting and all about my wonderful students from my Crochet 101 second session and of course some more crocheted hats. I love you all and hope the rest of your week goes well.


  1. Man oh man, Tamara, I’m so so sorry to hear what happened to Joshua. It’s hard to find anything positive in a situation like this – except that HE IS A SURVIVOR. Keep reminding yourself of that. He is safe and fine and unhurt, and, although it’s a horrible and painful way to learn that the world isn’t always a safe place, perhaps he will be safer for it in the future. It’s normal to be shaken up and upset, all of you, but you won’t always feel this way.
    Wishing you strength, and peace, and safety. xxx

    • Thanks so much Jill for the encouraging words. Joshua reads my blog and the comments and I know he will be uplifted by your kind words too. John and I have always told Joshua to be very cautious and watch his surroundings at all times and he has been very alert and he tells me now that he kind of remembers that he felt the muggers presence as he crossed the street before arriving at his apartment. But that’s in the past and he’s ok and more alert than ever.

      Love and Hugs,

  2. I, as a mom completely understand. We never stop worrying about our children. Glad your son is ok but how scary that must have been.Your son and daughter are so lucky to have such a sweet momma. hugs

    • Hi Dena!

      Thank you so much for stopping by to comment; it means a lot and thanks for thinking I’m such a good Momma. 🙂 I think you are too!

      Hugs Back at you,

  3. So glad he is okay and didn’t get hurt too bad. Did the mugger get away with much? I agree Rian must have been going nuts on the other end of the phone. Did he report this to the police? Hang tight momma bear!

    • Hi Susie!

      Thanks so much for stopping by and yes Joshua filed a police report and the two things the mugger got away with was his cell phone and his headphones for his iPod.


  4. Oh Tammy I am so sorry for you. Just knowing that Joshua is that far away is rough but knowing he was mugged makes your heart cry. Send him hugs and kisses. Thank you for remembering my sister Ruthie (and George the rooster). I miss my sister and its been 5 years since I’ve seen her. I don’t think Mom ever let her sleep with the rooster, Mom was funny about letting animals in the house. She always said I can’t keep this house clean with all the kids let alone a rooster too. I understand what you mean about never wanting to leave. I always cried because I was homesick and then I would cry because I always wanted to stay with your Mom. I loved my Aunt Toots – still do.

    • Thanks Sue for stopping by and remembering with me. Love you Cuz!

  5. Oh my! I’m so glad he’s OK!

    • Hi Mindy!

      thanks so much for stopping by to comment!


  6. Tamara,
    I have to tell you I cried when I heard about Joshua. As a mother who once had a son so far away i know how you worry. I loved all my children equally but Tim was the one I worried so much about becuse he was so gentle and vulnerable. I am glad Joshua is okay and that you can get back to normal, eventually. Love your blog.

    • Hi Kaye!

      I can only imagine the pain that you have gone through losing your children at such early ages. And especially Tim who I know you worried about so much. When I think about what you have gone through I feel very fortunate indeed. Thanks so much for being you and for loving my blog.

      Love and Hugs,

  7. Tamara,
    Such a scare! Thank goodness, Joshua was OK. I feel for you both. I could hardly breathe as I was reading.. just can’t imagine what you each went through, and Joshua’s friend on the phone. I understand the feeling of wanting to protect and not be able to. It is so normal to be angry, worried, stressed, relieved, feel blessed and be grateful all in the same moment when something like that happens. The roller coaster of emotion is wild when our kids are threatened and we are powerless to change it. I am so glad that all ended without injury and Joshua is OK. You are always in my thoughts,

    • Hi Steph!

      Thanks so much for being here with me it means a lot! I think of you often too.

      Miss and Love you,

  8. Oh Tamara, never you mind about promising your next post will be uplifting. We are glad you feel comfortable enough to tell this story here on your wonderful blog.

    I am so sorry this happened to Joshua yet – yes! –> praise the Lord for protecting him from physical harm. How very scary for Rian hearing all that – and then silence! And how awfully nerve-wracking for you, having your hands & feet tied, not being able to even walk up to Joshua to give him a motherly love-hug.

    It is so good that Joshua IS alert to his surroundings. Hopefully, because of this incident, he will always be sure to pay strong attention to any gut feelings he has … like the feeling of the presence of this mugger he’d had.

    God bless & continue to protect your dear Joshua!

    Love, Hugs, & Prayers ~

    • Hi Kat!

      Thank you so much for understanding and for always being here to say the kindest things. I love you and appreciate you mucho!

      Love and Hugs,

  9. Sweetie I’m so sorry to hear about the mugging, but thank God your son is ok. Please know that whether your news is good or bad I really enjoy your posts. Here for you, for good and bad. Huggggg

    • Hi Lindy!

      Thanks so much for your kind words, they mean a lot and thanks so much for liking my blog posts.

      Hugs Back to You,

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