Posted by: tgonzales | May 2, 2019

I Forgot to Mention Joshua

I found this quote a few years ago and I have loved it ever since. I forget to mention yesterday that I will get to see Joshua next Friday for the first time in 2 years. I can’t tell you how excited I am about that. Anyway, get the tissues ready.

“A mother is her son’s home base. You are home to him. When he learns to walk, he will wobble a few feet away from you and then come back, then wobble a little farther and then come back.

When he tries something new, he will look for your proud smile. When he learns to read, he will repeat the same book to you 20 times in a row, because you’re the only one who will listen that many times. When he plays a sport (in Joshua’s case a dramatic play), he will search for your face in the stands.

When he is sick, he will call you. When he really messes up, he will call you.

When he is grown and strong and tough and big and he feels like crying, he will come to you; because a man can cry in front of his mother without feeling self-conscious.

Even when he grows up and has a new person in his life and gets a new home you are still his mother; home base, the ever constant, like the sun. (I had to remind myself of this over and over when he moved to New York 9 years ago)

Know that in your heart and everything else will fall into place.”

Posted by: tgonzales | May 1, 2019

Connecticut Trip

My friend of 50 years asked me to go to Connecticut with her this Friday. We will be gone for a week and a half.

If you are wondering? Yes, this has been in the planning stages since the first part of the year. My friend is a very talented artist who loves all things fiber. She weaves, knits, crochets, hooks, embroiders, sews, etc. etc. the list goes on and on.

Anyway, she has done two yarn installations in Westville, Connecticut and her creations hung on and in trees during their ArtWalk. This is a quote from an interview with my friend; “I wanted to make something that makes people slow down and smile.”

Well….I hope people will slow down and smile again when they see the creative things that she has come up with for this year’s ArtWalk.

An over 6 foot long gecko lizard hanging from a 2-story building and decorated trees and bicycles are some of things that will be covered with yarn. Surely these pieces of art will make people slow down and smile! I am helping her by crocheting flowers and will help her crochet pieces to cover the bicycles once we get there. While she’s driving I will be crocheting as many flowers as I can. 🙂

I can hardly wait to start this adventure with my dear friend, Lisa. How’s your week going?

 

 

 

 

Posted by: tgonzales | April 25, 2019

Happy 43rd Birthday to My Sweet Jennifer

When your Dad and I got married I knew I wanted to have a child. So three months later when I found out that I was pregnant I was so happy. I can tell you this; I loved every minute of carrying you for nine months and 2 weeks. Even though I was to the point that I thought I was going to be pregnant for the rest of my life, I still enjoyed it. In the 70’s when you were born the doctors didn’t do sonograms unless there was a problem with the pregnancy. Since I was not having any problems my doctor chose not to do a sonogram. So I didn’t know whether you were going to be a boy or a girl. Your Dad convinced me that we should have a boy first so that’s what we were hoping for.

But when you arrived and I found out that you were a girl; I was secretly very happy. (That’s you on the left and your cousin Jarred on the right.) I always thought it would be fun to have a mini-me running around.

I thought I would share some photos of you growing up. I can’t believe all of the studio pictures that I had taken. You were unbelievable when it came to taking pictures. On our way to the studio you would be crying and as soon as the lights came on and the camera started flashing you would just smile.

In one of your pictures you may see a tear in her eye but you still had a smile on your face. How could I resist buying the pictures when you were so cute?

You loved your cousin Jarred who was born the day after you and your Aunt Jackie and I both had the same doctor and we were in the same hospital room. You grew up just like brother and sister and fought just like it too. 🙂

You were always such a social butterfly and you always loved playing with your cousins

neighbors, and friends.

And I’m happy to say that you still are a social butterfly and you never seem to meet a stranger.

Sorry about not having more pictures of you as a young teenager. I must’ve been too busy with working and Joshua. Oh speaking of Joshua, when John and I were trying to tell you that you were going to have a little brother or sister. We were both so afraid that you would be upset. I still remember when we told you. We were leaving Cholita’s Mexican Restaurant and I turned and said what if I were to tell you that I’m going to have a baby. And you said, “Mommy, I’ve always wanted a brother or sister.”

I was so happy and you were the best big sister; helping to take care of Joshua even going as far as to stay up with him when he was sick. We would take turns rocking him when he didn’t feel well.

Then as history repeats itself you also had always wanted to have a child and when you got married and announced you were pregnant, we were all very happy. Even though you knew the pregnancy was high risk due to your high blood pressure. You went to a high risk doctor for your checkups and tried to do everything he told you to do, but your body had other plans and the doctor put you in the hospital. I remember driving to the hospital after work and helping you to shower and wash your hair every day. I would tuck you in to bed and then cried all the way home. I just remember I was so frightened that I might lose you. Then I remember getting a call from you on Saturday morning on that Labor Day weekend in 2002 your vital signs and the baby’s vital signs were telling the doctor that you needed to deliver some time that weekend. I remember staying at the hospital from Saturday-Monday when they finally took the baby Caesarean.

And even though Megan was very tiny at 3 lbs. 3 oz. she didn’t have to stay in the hospital too awfully long.

As long as I live I will never forget the question Megan asked you just not too long ago. “Mommy how long have you and Gran Gran been friends?” And I love how you answered her; “since I was born.” I think that is so true, because we pretty much grew up together. I hope you have a wonderful birthday today and always. I’ve loved every single minute of the years even through the ups and downs and don’t ever forget that I will always love you!

Posted by: tgonzales | February 27, 2019

A Great Lesson on Stress

This is a copy of a post from February 27, 2015. I so miss writing on here, but can’t seem to find the time to pick it back up. When I read this post from 2015, I loved it so much that I thought it would be a good read for all of you again. I hope everyone is having a good year and try not to stress so much! LOL



A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘half empty or half full?’…She fooled them all… “How heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 ozs. to 20 ozs. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an Ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.” “As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night, pick them up tomorrow.

1 * Accept the fact that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue!

2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4 * Drive carefully… It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.

5 * If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8 * Never buy a car you can’t push.

9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

10 * Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.

11 * Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

12 * The second mouse gets the cheese.

13 * When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

14 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

16 * Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17 * We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

18 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19 * Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY

20 *Save the earth…..It’s the only planet with chocolate!* I THINK!!!!

Today someone asked me if I liked you. I laughed, and I said, “Ha! That’s funny!! I absolutely LOVE them!! They are caring, crazy as heck, sweet, beautiful, they are reading this blog post right now and I love them!!” Be the kind of person that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says~~ “Oh Crap, They Are up!”

One of my dear friends, Linda sent the above items in an email. I liked it so much I had to share it with all of you. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. I know I am planning on it and hopefully will have some crocheted things to share. This was my way of trying to de-stress.  🙂

I just wanted to stop by to let everyone know that I’m still alive and kicking. John and I are two of the many vendors at the first annual arts and crafts show at St. Jude’s Catholic School today from 9-3. The school is located next to the church at 3030 N. Amidon in Wichita, Kansas.

I have lots of children and baby hats for girls and boys. I also have a variety of adults hats as well as scarves.

I also have a few one of a kind items. If you make it by the booth ask me about them. Ok? Love you all and I hope to get back to blogging real soon. I have a lot to tell you. I hope each and every one of you have a wonderful Saturday and weekend.

Posted by: tgonzales | July 9, 2017

After Your Parents are Gone

I have heard this saying a lot lately and I remember my Mom telling me that she was a little worried about this same thing.

I had thought about it and had seen other families as they went through the process of losing both of their parents.

Sometimes I noticed that the families would just drift apart.

And I wondered how this would affect our family as well.

So I took notice when our brother Dean passed away it was very hard to watch both of my parents grieve for their son. We still tried to gather around our parents to soothe all of our grief.

Then less than a year later our Daddy passed away and we all rallied around our Mom to soothe her grief.

When Mom became ill with Alzheimer’s, we once again rallied for our Mom.

All the time I kept wondering how her passing would affect our family closeness and I remembered what she had said to me about how she worried that her children would lose touch with each other when she was gone. Through all of this I love the way that Jackie has been the one to make sure that we all stay in touch. By either a phone call to each of us or by organizing an impromptu breakfast because Terry was going to be in town.

I appreciate Jackie’s ability to gather everyone together and I love her for that.

Mark and Jackie graciously welcomed us into their home one Sunday in May and Jackie cooked up a wonderful breakfast and we all gathered and visited and had a good day.

This last week  my brother Terry and his wife Cathy were going to be in Wichita and I was on vacation so I had them over for an impromptu lunch.  Unlike Jackie I didn’t have any luck gathering any of the other siblings, but I had a much needed one on one visit with Terry and Cathy. Anyway, I was wondering about other people’s family dynamics after their parents pass away. Do you struggle with keeping the family together or is it easy for you?

 

Posted by: tgonzales | May 24, 2017

Upcoming Class – Tantalizing Trio of Washcloths

I have an upcoming class that is designed for beginners. If you can make a chain, single crochet, slip stitch, and double crochet this is the class for you. The classes will be three 2-hour sessions, where you will learn how to make three different washcloths. You will be using a smaller yarn and a smaller hook than you used in the beginners’ class and you will use a combination of stitches that will make the washcloths look like they are very difficult but they really aren’t. We have made it pretty simple and made a kit that includes the pattern, hook, and 3 colors of yarn that will be used for all three classes. All you have to do is stop by Picket Fence to sign up and pay for the class and your kit.

Phone: 558-8899

Address: 7011 W. Central #129

Wichita, Kansas

Name of the class: Tantalizing Trio of Washcloths

Things needed for the class:

The Kit, yarn or tapestry needle, stitch markers, scissors, and your wonderful selves.

Dates of the Classes:

Saturday, June 17 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

Saturday, June 24 3:00 pm – 5:00 pm

Saturday, July 8 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

Class Cost includes 6 hours of Instruction:

$40

Kit includes 3 colors of yarn; enough for all three washcloths, hook, and patterns for washcloths:

$14.99

Posted by: tgonzales | January 17, 2017

Remembering Mama on the Second Anniversary of Her Death

On this second anniversary of my Dear Mama's death, I think back about all the good memories that I have of her. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her and how she influenced me and my brothers and sister. It's ironic I looked up from the sink today to find this card on my shelf in the bathroom. It was given to me by my dear friend Lisa who sent this card to me 7 months after her death and the day it came in the mail I really needed a pick me up. She had misplaced the card and found it again and decided to send it.

It’s ironic I looked up from the sink today to find this card on my shelf in the bathroom. It was given to me by my dear friend Lisa who sent this card to me 7 months after her death and the day it came in the mail I really needed that little pick me up. On this second anniversary of my Dear Mama’s death, I think back about all the memories that I have of her. I try to concentrate on the good ones. I especially remember the way she touched my forehead when I was sick. Her hand was always the exact temperature that made me feel better, either warm or cold. Her laugh, her touch, her whistle, and the bounce in her step are some of the things that make me smile. I would like to share with you one of my blogposts from April of 2014 when I walked with Mom for the day as she made her way through that day. She loved feeding, walking, and corralling those chickens didn’t she. Just click on the link below. I hope it makes you smile. 

https://crochetwithtamara.wordpress.com/2014/04/04/my-mom-and-her-chickens/

 

Posted by: tgonzales | November 24, 2016

Happy Thanksgiving 2016

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Happy Thanksgiving from our house to yours.

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I’m so excited to see my little Megan.

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We are going to miss our Joshua. But we will for sure get some face time in with him. I am having my sister and brother-in-law; Jackie and Mark, nephew Jarred, Jennifer, Megan, and a dear friend Sheila join us this year. I’m looking forward to having them all here with us this year. I hope everyone has a day filled with food, fun, and family. I love you all!

Posted by: tgonzales | November 18, 2016

This Man of Mine is Something Else

My consolation prize was three private photos taken by the ships photographer. This was the one we chose of both of us. There were 27 others that were just as good. I can't wait to make copies of these to give out.

This man of mine is something else. I got up this morning at my normal time of 3:15 am and when I opened the frig I found…….

tuna-salad

tuna salad. He makes the best tuna salad that I have ever ate. He chops celery, onion, garlic, and sweet pickles so tiny you can hardly see them. No wonder he makes me smile. I hope everyone enjoys their weekend. Mine will consist of a little crochet and cleaning. And in that order. LOL I would love to hear what your plans are.

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