Posted by: tgonzales | February 27, 2019

A Great Lesson on Stress

This is a copy of a post from February 27, 2015. I so miss writing on here, but can’t seem to find the time to pick it back up. When I read this post from 2015, I loved it so much that I thought it would be a good read for all of you again. I hope everyone is having a good year and try not to stress so much! LOL

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘half empty or half full?’…She fooled them all… “How heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 ozs. to 20 ozs. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an Ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.” “As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night, pick them up tomorrow.

1 * Accept the fact that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue!

2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4 * Drive carefully… It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.

5 * If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8 * Never buy a car you can’t push.

9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

10 * Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.

11 * Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

12 * The second mouse gets the cheese.

13 * When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

14 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

16 * Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17 * We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

18 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19 * Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.


20 *Save the earth…..It’s the only planet with chocolate!* I THINK!!!!

Today someone asked me if I liked you. I laughed, and I said, “Ha! That’s funny!! I absolutely LOVE them!! They are caring, crazy as heck, sweet, beautiful, they are reading this blog post right now and I love them!!” Be the kind of person that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says~~ “Oh Crap, They Are up!”

One of my dear friends, Linda sent the above items in an email. I liked it so much I had to share it with all of you. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. I know I am planning on it and hopefully will have some crocheted things to share. This was my way of trying to de-stress.  🙂

I just wanted to stop by to let everyone know that I’m still alive and kicking. John and I are two of the many vendors at the first annual arts and crafts show at St. Jude’s Catholic School today from 9-3. The school is located next to the church at 3030 N. Amidon in Wichita, Kansas.

I have lots of children and baby hats for girls and boys. I also have a variety of adults hats as well as scarves.

I also have a few one of a kind items. If you make it by the booth ask me about them. Ok? Love you all and I hope to get back to blogging real soon. I have a lot to tell you. I hope each and every one of you have a wonderful Saturday and weekend.

Posted by: tgonzales | July 9, 2017

After Your Parents are Gone

I have heard this saying a lot lately and I remember my Mom telling me that she was a little worried about this same thing.

I had thought about it and had seen other families as they went through the process of losing both of their parents.

Sometimes I noticed that the families would just drift apart.

And I wondered how this would affect our family as well.

So I took notice when our brother Dean passed away it was very hard to watch both of my parents grieve for their son. We still tried to gather around our parents to soothe all of our grief.

Then less than a year later our Daddy passed away and we all rallied around our Mom to soothe her grief.

When Mom became ill with Alzheimer’s, we once again rallied for our Mom.

All the time I kept wondering how her passing would affect our family closeness and I remembered what she had said to me about how she worried that her children would lose touch with each other when she was gone. Through all of this I love the way that Jackie has been the one to make sure that we all stay in touch. By either a phone call to each of us or by organizing an impromptu breakfast because Terry was going to be in town.

I appreciate Jackie’s ability to gather everyone together and I love her for that.

Mark and Jackie graciously welcomed us into their home one Sunday in May and Jackie cooked up a wonderful breakfast and we all gathered and visited and had a good day.

This last week  my brother Terry and his wife Cathy were going to be in Wichita and I was on vacation so I had them over for an impromptu lunch.  Unlike Jackie I didn’t have any luck gathering any of the other siblings, but I had a much needed one on one visit with Terry and Cathy. Anyway, I was wondering about other people’s family dynamics after their parents pass away. Do you struggle with keeping the family together or is it easy for you?


Posted by: tgonzales | May 24, 2017

Upcoming Class – Tantalizing Trio of Washcloths

I have an upcoming class that is designed for beginners. If you can make a chain, single crochet, slip stitch, and double crochet this is the class for you. The classes will be three 2-hour sessions, where you will learn how to make three different washcloths. You will be using a smaller yarn and a smaller hook than you used in the beginners’ class and you will use a combination of stitches that will make the washcloths look like they are very difficult but they really aren’t. We have made it pretty simple and made a kit that includes the pattern, hook, and 3 colors of yarn that will be used for all three classes. All you have to do is stop by Picket Fence to sign up and pay for the class and your kit.

Phone: 558-8899

Address: 7011 W. Central #129

Wichita, Kansas

Name of the class: Tantalizing Trio of Washcloths

Things needed for the class:

The Kit, yarn or tapestry needle, stitch markers, scissors, and your wonderful selves.

Dates of the Classes:

Saturday, June 17 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

Saturday, June 24 3:00 pm – 5:00 pm

Saturday, July 8 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

Class Cost includes 6 hours of Instruction:


Kit includes 3 colors of yarn; enough for all three washcloths, hook, and patterns for washcloths:


Posted by: tgonzales | January 17, 2017

Remembering Mama on the Second Anniversary of Her Death

On this second anniversary of my Dear Mama's death, I think back about all the good memories that I have of her. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her and how she influenced me and my brothers and sister. It's ironic I looked up from the sink today to find this card on my shelf in the bathroom. It was given to me by my dear friend Lisa who sent this card to me 7 months after her death and the day it came in the mail I really needed a pick me up. She had misplaced the card and found it again and decided to send it.

It’s ironic I looked up from the sink today to find this card on my shelf in the bathroom. It was given to me by my dear friend Lisa who sent this card to me 7 months after her death and the day it came in the mail I really needed that little pick me up. On this second anniversary of my Dear Mama’s death, I think back about all the memories that I have of her. I try to concentrate on the good ones. I especially remember the way she touched my forehead when I was sick. Her hand was always the exact temperature that made me feel better, either warm or cold. Her laugh, her touch, her whistle, and the bounce in her step are some of the things that make me smile. I would like to share with you one of my blogposts from April of 2014 when I walked with Mom for the day as she made her way through that day. She loved feeding, walking, and corralling those chickens didn’t she. Just click on the link below. I hope it makes you smile.


Posted by: tgonzales | November 24, 2016

Happy Thanksgiving 2016


Happy Thanksgiving from our house to yours.


I’m so excited to see my little Megan.


We are going to miss our Joshua. But we will for sure get some face time in with him. I am having my sister and brother-in-law; Jackie and Mark, nephew Jarred, Jennifer, Megan, and a dear friend Sheila join us this year. I’m looking forward to having them all here with us this year. I hope everyone has a day filled with food, fun, and family. I love you all!

Posted by: tgonzales | November 18, 2016

This Man of Mine is Something Else

My consolation prize was three private photos taken by the ships photographer. This was the one we chose of both of us. There were 27 others that were just as good. I can't wait to make copies of these to give out.

This man of mine is something else. I got up this morning at my normal time of 3:15 am and when I opened the frig I found…….


tuna salad. He makes the best tuna salad that I have ever ate. He chops celery, onion, garlic, and sweet pickles so tiny you can hardly see them. No wonder he makes me smile. I hope everyone enjoys their weekend. Mine will consist of a little crochet and cleaning. And in that order. LOL I would love to hear what your plans are.

Posted by: tgonzales | November 17, 2016

Sorry for the Confusion Yesterday

I just wanted to say that I’m sorry for the confusing post yesterday. I don’t think that some of you realized that the majority of the post was from a post from November 16, 2011 (5 years ago). So I thought I would let you all know there are only two things from that post that have changed about me.

  • My hair is not brown and long and
  • My glasses are not the same.


I decided about 3 years ago to let my hair go gray and I wanted it very short. I always had lots of thick long hair and I have had lots of different hair styles in my lifetime, but now that I have gone gray and short I don’t plan on going back to long hair or dying it either. That’s just my decision and I love the ease of it. I also decided to start wearing funky glasses. I think they fit my personality better. (I just love my sister and loved this photo of us taken at my nieces baby shower.)

On the other hand all of the seven things about my crochet addiction are still the same on this day in November 2016. Just saying!

Anyway, I received this little saying in an email today and thought it was perfect for today:

Life is Short, Break the Rules Forgive Quickly, Kiss Slowly LOVE Truly Laugh Uncontrollably and NEVER Regret Anything that makes you Smile 🙂!!!

And thanks to all who stop by to read my ramblings, it makes my heart happy and makes me Smile! So go out there and do all of these things but most of all Smile!!!!!


Posted by: tgonzales | November 16, 2016

Crochet Addiction or Hobby? That’s My Question to You


My friend Susie and I were talking the other day about how she obsesses over having a crochet project with her at all times. She said, “Tamara I think I’m addicted to crochet.” We talked a little more about it and then we laughed, but when she left I started asking myself these questions:


  1. What’s the first thing that you think of when you wake up in the morning? Do you think about the crochet project that you left undone the night before? I would have to say yes, I do.
  2. What’s the first thing you think about grabbing as you are leaving the house? Is it several projects and all your hooks? I would have to say yes, I do. (I’m always afraid that if I don’t take several projects, I’ll finish one and then I will have extra time that I will have idol hands.)
  3. Do you crochet on a project until the last minute before rushing out the door to go to work? I would have to say yes I do.
  4. Do you rush through your lunchtime meal in order to have the most amount of your hour left to crochet on that exciting project that you started the night before, and crochet up until the last few seconds of your lunch hour and sometimes you’re almost or have been late to allow the person at the front desk to take their lunch break? I would have to say yes, I’m guilty.
  5. Do you seek out small or large groups of people that like to crochet so that you can be inspired by them and just talk about crochet? I would have to say yes I do.
  6. Do you spend hours upon hours on the computer seeking out inspiration for your next crochet project and then can’t remember half the websites you have visited? I would have to say yes I do.
  7. You get all antsy and grouchy if you haven’t crocheted all day. I am so guilty on this one and I would say yes I do.

I know there are more than 7 instances of me being addicted to my crochet hobby; but I can’t remember all of them all at once, so let’s not go there.

Ok, here’s what my hobby (addiction) has produced in the last two days:


two cute earflap hats,


One KU Jayhawks earflap hat, two washcloths (sorry, no picture of the washcloths because I needed to continue to crochet)


I did stop crocheting long enough to create this cool order form and worked 2-8 hour shifts at my real job. I had to create the new order form for the crocheted hats because…….


I got orders for 11 more yesterday. I’m still not sure whether this crochet thing is an addiction or hobby but all I know is that I have to crochet. Which one do you think it is? This was taken from an original post that was written on November 16, 2011.


No matter how hard I try I can’t seem to kick this crochet addiction even on this November 16, 2016. How about you? What is your craft addiction?


Posted by: tgonzales | October 17, 2016

Five Years Ago Today; October 17, 2011

On this day a five years ago I received the phone call that I never wanted to hear. Although we had expected it any day since my Daddy’s heart was so weak after he had suffered a heart attack and a stroke on April 15, 2000, relearned how to walk, drive, dress himself, survived 7 bypass surgery, bouts of congestive heart failure, and a pacemaker put in; it didn’t make it any easier when Jackie called me to break the news that our Daddy had passed away. I think it was harder because we had lost our brother not even a year before?

After I got the news and as I was driving to be with my Mom, sister, and brothers; I started thinking about all the things that we had done throughout the summer. I remembered Jackie and I had taken my Mom and Daddy to Greensburg to see the town that had been almost completely destroyed by a tornado.

Or the time that I took them to Joshua’s plays,

or the time that we took them to Illinois for my Daddys’ last visit there not even a month before his passing.

I felt very lucky that I was able to spend some quality time with my Daddy before he went to Heaven to be with our brother Dean. I hope you all enjoy some of the photos here as I did when I went through them. I loved my Daddy and felt like he could do anything;

and me in my insecure way wondered if he was ever proud of me, but deep down when I look at this photo I know he was.

I was truly blessed to have such a good man as my Daddy and can only hope when I grow old that my children think the same about me. I still remember his favorite song, “Chain of Love”. I try to remember the words of the song when I help other people out like my Daddy always did, “don’t let the chain of love end with you.” I love you all and hope that you hug your Daddy’s extra long today if they are near you or give him a call to tell him how much you love him.

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